Catching up today on a lot of posts, sorry I've been away for a while.
An update on the breastfeeding - it's going pretty good now. I feel like I've finally found a really nice balance. I stopped guilting myself into thinking I should be breastfeeding every feeding, and I've stopped resenting my pump. We have a nice balance now between breastfeeding vs. pumping + bottles. My babies are getting only breast milk, and I feel really proud of that. I have an excellent milk supply.
In a typical day, I pump twice - once when I get up in the morning and once before I go to bed at night. The babies always get at least one bottle in the morning while I sleep a little. Jim takes them both for the morning feeding so I can get a little sleep. By the time I wake up I'm very full, and usually pump 12 - 16 ounces, sometimes more (19 is my record!). And in the evening before bed time (or before we think they're ready to go down for the night) they also get a bottle. This lets Jim share in the feeding, and gives me a bit of a break. If we're home I breast feed all the day time feedings, and when they wake up in the night. Sometimes I tandem feed if they are both hungry at the same time, and sometimes it's individual feedings. If we are going out for the evening I will pump before we go and we'll take bottles with us.
Usually when we are out they get bottles. I don't generally feel the need to breast feed in public. I'm not opposed to it, but sometimes a bottle is easier. But I have nursed them in the parking lot at Costco and the mall a few times - when they were hungry and I was full.
We've got a nice balance where they get about 50% bottles and 50% breast. I feel like this works really well for our lives, we have a lot of flexibility.