Thursday, April 10, 2008

Change of plans

I've decided not to go password protected. It seemed like a pain in the ass. But I am making some changes.

I got a little bothered by three things.

The first being that my name and blog appeared on a website that was against ART, and specifically the kind of path I chose. I don't really need anybody coming here who isn't in support of what I've been through. (go away!)

The second was that someone said that one of my ultrasound photos had appeared somewhere else, and that someone was claiming it as their own. (why would you do that? that's just desperate and wierd)

The third was that I started to fear that someone who knows me IRL would find this (or had found it) and know more about how I got pregnant than I care for them to know. (to that person, if you're here: If I didn't share this info with you personally - then it's none of your business and you shouldn't be digging.)

So - I'm keeping the blog open. But I have taken down all my old posts about my IF journey, the archive now only goes back to the beginning of my pregnancy. And I have taken down all photos and images. I won't be posting pictures here.

If you have come here because you heard that I experienced something similar to what you are going through, and you're looking for support and a comrade in arms - I would be more than happy to tell you my whole story and answer any questions I can. Just email me at whatifthis at hotmail dot com.

If you are here because you have been following me all along and want to keep following - then please stay, I'm not going away.

If you want to see pictures of me or the babies... I have another blog that I keep for my family. My 'public' blog. Email me. If I "know" you and/or I think you're legit, then I'll send you a link to my other blog where I post pics. You just have to promise that you would never leave a comment there that would lead anyone back here. These two worlds are separate.

thanks for sticking with me.


Hopeful Mother said...

I'm glad you're not going anywhere - but I TOTALLY understand what you're getting at. I am making my blog invite only for similar reasons (do you want an invite?)

So happy to keep reading about you and your babes!

Isabel said...

Thanks for keeping the blog up.

My own blog is a public blog, and I do sometimes wish I could have password protected posts.

Regarding the pictures, I do worry about publicly posting pictures. Someone reposted your U/S pics? Weird.

seattlegal said...

Another fellow blogger had that happen to her that her pictures were used as if they were this other person's ultrasound photos. I don't understand people sometimes.

I'm glad to keep reading about you and your babies! I'd love to see pictures too! heathercim at gmail dot com (desperately seeking baby). I promise I won't comment or link back to this blog.

Take care!

Matthew M. F. Miller said...

Thanks for staying public, but I'm so sorry you've encountered some weirdos.

Stealing your ultrasound photo is creepy beyond belief.

Keeping The Faith said...

My husband wants me to go invite only. He doesn't trust that we're safe from the "crazies" out there. It's hard though...b/c I think some legit people benefit from my story. I started to worry when I noticed that someone(s) are constantly looking at my pregnancy many many many times a day. So I don't think it's just someone comparing their pregnancy belly to mine or wanting to know what a twin belly looks like. Not sure I want to think about what may be the real reason.

So...there are real concerns so I understand why you're guarding your families privacy.

I would like to see photos and promise not to comment on your other blog if you give me the address.

E-mail the site to me at keepingthefaithblog(at)gmail(dot)com if its okay w/ you for me to be there.

I'm glad you're still blogging.


Jaimie said...

Wow. I forget how exposed we all are and that isn't wise of me is it? Having a place to vent and journal is so important, but it does leave you so wide open. I am sorry that someone felt they had the right to say what gave you your beautiful babies was wrong. Obviously, they have never been in a similar position.

How creepy to steal your pictures! How sad and crazy and really really creepy!!! I'm not fond of someone IRL finding my blog. It is journal, so therefore a place to vent and that might not be good!

Bea said...

Claiming your ultrasound pic as their own? Yeah...

Sounds like a good compromise. Now, to your previous posts:

The drop dead milk stash. I'm morbid enough to appreciate what you mean.

Also, you make babyfood sound easy! Very encouraging.


The Dunn Family said...

I think we are all agreed that people can be nuts! I would love to see pics of the kids. And I promise not to comment on them! I'll comment here. I understand wanting to keep the two blogs seperate! erica74(at)gmail(dot)com.

Helen said...

I'm still here! I'm happy to keep reading.

And about stealing ultrasound pics? That has to be the strangest thing I've heard of yet.

Anonymous said...

Carol, I would love to be able to see pictures of your babies and watch them grow. I am currently considering going down the same path you have to try and achieve pregnancy. My email is disenchantedreality at hotmail dot com.