Sunday, October 28, 2007

Relationship to patient: Mother

I wrote that on a form at the ultrasound office the other day. It still seems surreal, it catches me by surprise. I am somebody’s mother. I wonder if that ever really sinks in.

My mother left today. We are on our own now. I have mixed feelings about this. She was so much help, taking care of us and the babies. We have had great help from both our moms this past month. And now we will see how we do without them. I’m a little nervous about managing the days by myself. I think I’ll do ok, I just won’t get much of a break during the day. The babies will have to cry more – there won’t always be a free set of hands to pick them both up. But that’s ok, I’m sure it will hurt me more than it hurts them.

On the other hand, we are looking forward to seeing how we do on our own, and having some time with just the four of us. And we know that help is not far away if we ever need to call in reinforcements. And it's only for a few weeks that I will be on my own during the day - we are heading to SD for thanksgiving in 3 weeks, and then after that Jim is taking his month parental leave. By the time he goes back to work the babies will be 3 months old, and hopefully we'll have a bit more of a routine going.

hopefully. :-)

4 comments:

The Dunn Family said...

You will be fine. The only advice I can give you is to take it one day at a time. And don't feel bad if one had to cry while you are tending to the other. It is going to happen. I was a wreck when my husband went back to work after 1 month, and I think the anticipation of it being bad was worse than actually just being in my own. You will find your rhythm with the babies and you will do great. Don't be surprised if you cry, get overwhelmed, have some not so great days, it's all totally normal. Twins are a lot of work, but so much reward that it's worth it a million times over! Good luck, and never hesitate to email with questions or issues. I don't know if you've been there, but http://www.twinstuff.com/forum/index.php?showforum=37 was a lifesaver for me. It's all twin moms, and you can ask questions and get so much great advice!

peep said...

Good luck on your own. I bet you'll do great! That bra thingy is crazy. I didn't even know you had to hold something or that you could do both at once. I think I have a lot to learn. Thanks for sharing.

MeganKev said...

Congratulations on your beautiful babies! I am delurking after following your blog through your pregnancy. I, too, just had a boy and a girl in September and would love to email offline (if you have time) about where you find the time to pump, how you do feedings when you are on your own, and whether you have found any tips or tricks that you'd be willing to share.

The Town Criers said...

Here for you if you're having a crazy day and need any suggestions. It's really really hard in the beginning and any day is a success if you get to the end of the day :-)